It's always the feminine that defines whether union will happen, or not.
The feminine creates the magnetic field of attraction, and the masculine aligns to that field.
The feminine principal is receptive but not passive; it's choosing but not pursuing; it's magnetic but not aggressive. It's like the earth that chooses which seeds it will allow to germinate in its soil. The earth doesn't chase after seeds begging to be fertilized. It simply offers or denies its conditions for life to sprout, and when it offers its ideal conditions the seeds naturally turn toward it, surrender to it, find in it the perfect home to flourish. The masculine principal on the other hand is directed, focused, penetrating. It's like the sun that offers its light constantly without pursuing; without begging to be accepted. It simply shines with its authentic truth and allows the earth to choose whether it wants to receive that light, or not. And when the earth opens to receive, when it offers fertile soil, the sun naturally pours over it with all its intensity.
When these principals operate in harmony, when each is in its natural energetic role, attraction happens organically, effortlessly, without resistance, but when roles are reversed, when the feminine tries to be the pursuing sun and the masculine tries to be the resisting earth, the dynamic becomes forced, unbalanced, usually doomed to failure or co-dependency.
...modern society ... has ... taught that women should chase men, that they should be active, aggressive, that they should conquer; and it taught men to be more passive, more receptive, less directed. This polarity inversion has created entire generations of people who no longer know how to relate in an energetically-balanced way. And when it comes to twin flames, this polarity confusion becomes even more destructive because twin flames are connections that operate at much higher and more subtle frequencies than common relationships. Any energetic imbalance in this dynamic creates resistances that can last years, decades, sometimes entire lifetimes.
Jung observed in his therapy sessions that ... the soul that carries more feminine energy in the dynamic is always the one that defines whether union will happen, or not. (From the video, below.)
The feminine has to decide to change, but how does she do that?
UPDATE, October 17, 2025...
The church is feminine.
She must decide to change.
...to prepare for the wedding.
What is the work that God requires?
UPDATE, October 18, 2025...
I am certain the Creator of the universe brought my twin flame into the coffee shop and that she recognized me, but not consciously. She chose and I aligned. We were allowed to sample each other and experience the promise, but it was only that, a promise.
I have been taken through so much over the past year. I have grown and matured, and the common denominator has been her. Every day; every night; every awakening. It's always her, and what God ultimately plans to do with us.
He has given me so much guidance and revelation about this and I have realized I am sinning when I doubt. I have no excuse because I know His Voice, and He does not lie or mislead. He does not tease. I have asked Him to take it away if my interpretations are not His intentions; my thoughts about her have simply intensified.
I had a deep and loving relationship with my wife that grew over time.1 Through my grief over losing her I have learned how to rely on myself and to walk with my Creator. He is my Master and He guides me through my life.
I fully comprehend and expect God is working on my twin flame, too. She is much younger than me and I realize the strategic importance of that fact. I trust my Yehoshua and know He is showing me His heart so He can include me in the courting of the Love of His life, the Spiritual Children of Israel.
I am impatient, of course. It has been 1733 days since I last made love with a woman; 1731 since I embraced her. I crave relationship, ...intensely. My twin flame is the only option my Creator has brought before me. There is no other. There will be no other. I am certain of it.
But I will wait patiently. She is at a crucial point in her life, the same age I was when my spiritual growth and revelations took off. She must be independent and sovereign, confident she can navigate through the rest of her life on her own with only the help of her Maker. When she is at the right point, the LORD will bring us together. Not a moment before. Then we will be massively more than the sum of our parts.
Our situation is unique, just like every twin-flame relationship, but the principles of these videos apply and we can both learn from them. Here is the one that was put in front of me today...
Yes, I will test her, as the video says.
UPDATE, November 16, 2025...
1 Adjusted this paragraph.