It's always the feminine that defines whether union will happen, or not.
The feminine creates the magnetic field of attraction, and the masculine aligns to that field.
The feminine principal is receptive but not passive; it's choosing but not pursuing; it's magnetic but not aggressive. It's like the earth that chooses which seeds it will allow to germinate in its soil. The earth doesn't chase after seeds begging to be fertilized. It simply offers or denies its conditions for life to sprout, and when it offers its ideal conditions the seeds naturally turn toward it, surrender to it, find in it the perfect home to flourish. The masculine principal on the other hand is directed, focused, penetrating. It's like the sun that offers its light constantly without pursuing; without begging to be accepted. It simply shines with its authentic truth and allows the earth to choose whether it wants to receive that light, or not. And when the earth opens to receive, when it offers fertile soil, the sun naturally pours over it with all its intensity.
When these principals operate in harmony, when each is in its natural energetic role, attraction happens organically, effortlessly, without resistance, but when roles are reversed, when the feminine tries to be the pursuing sun and the masculine tries to be the resisting earth, the dynamic becomes forced, unbalanced, usually doomed to failure or co-dependency.
...modern society ... has ... taught that women should chase men, that they should be active, aggressive, that they should conquer; and it taught men to be more passive, more receptive, less directed. This polarity inversion has created entire generations of people who no longer know how to relate in an energetically-balanced way. And when it comes to twin flames, this polarity confusion becomes even more destructive because twin flames are connections that operate at much higher and more subtle frequencies than common relationships. Any energetic imbalance in this dynamic creates resistances that can last years, decades, sometimes entire lifetimes.
Jung observed in his therapy sessions that ... the soul that carries more feminine energy in the dynamic is always the one that defines whether union will happen, or not. (From the video, below.)
The feminine has to decide to change, but how does she do that?
UPDATE, October 17, 2025...
The church is feminine.
She must decide to change.
...to prepare for the wedding.
What is the work that God requires?
UPDATE, October 18, 2025...
I am certain the Creator of the universe brought my twin flame into the coffee shop and that she recognized me, but not consciously. She chose and I aligned. We were allowed to sample each other and experience the promise, but it was only that, a promise.
I have been taken through so much over the past year. I have grown and matured, and the common denominator has been her. Every day; every night; every awakening. It's always her, and what God ultimately plans to do with us.
He has given me so much guidance and revelation about this and I have realized I am sinning when I doubt. I have no excuse because I know His Voice, and He does not lie or mislead. He does not tease. I have asked Him to take it away if my interpretations are not His intentions; my thoughts about her have simply intensified.
I had a deep and loving relationship with my wife that grew over time.1 Through my grief over losing her I have learned how to rely on myself and to walk with my Creator. He is my Master and He guides me through my life.
I fully comprehend and expect God is working on my twin flame, too. She is much younger than me and I realize the strategic importance of that fact. I trust my Yehoshua and know He is showing me His heart so He can include me in the courting of the Love of His life, the Spiritual Children of Israel.
I am impatient, of course. It has been 1733 days since I last made love with a woman; 1731 since I embraced her. I crave relationship, ...intensely. My twin flame is the only option my Creator has brought before me. There is no other. There will be no other. I am certain of it.
But I will wait patiently. She is at a crucial point in her life, the same age I was when my spiritual growth and revelations took off. She must be independent and sovereign, confident she can navigate through the rest of her life on her own with only the help of her Maker. When she is at the right point, the LORD will bring us together. Not a moment before. Then we will be massively more than the sum of our parts.
Our situation is unique, just like every twin-flame relationship, but the principles of these videos apply and we can both learn from them. Here is the one that was put in front of me today...
Yes, I will test her, as the video says.
UPDATE, November 16, 2025...
1 Adjusted this paragraph.
UPDATE, April 10, 2026...
Oh, wow.................
Article #5797, Anchor Points.
UPDATE, July 30, 2026...
Interesting website: https://puretwinflames.com
Discernment. Recognizing the "what" versus the "why." 😉
UPDATE, August 1, 2026...
There is a specific page in the above reference about what the Bible may say about Twin Flames: https://puretwinflames.com/what-does-the-bible-say-about-twin-flames/
- Isaiah 34:16, in context.
- Colossians 2:2, in context. This is one of the "Paul's Mystery" verses.
- Genesis 2:22, in context.
I am working on reconciling what I know with these "Twin Flame" ideas. Perhaps this is part of the work I must do before union can take place?
UPDATE, August 9, 2026...
I believe I'm an "Embracer." From the Pure Twin Flames website...
Embracers
Some of these twin flames have made more spiritual progress throughout their lives. They’ll be more in touch with their inner truth.
It’s likely their spiritual growth will show in their 3D life. These twins will be the wise friend everyone goes to for advice.
They’re usually radiating energy on the frequencies of balance. They display higher vibe emotions, behaviors, and thinking patterns.
You can count on them to be optimistic, open-minded, willing, and eager to communicate authentically. A powerful characteristic of these twins is their deep respect for someone else’s space and divine timing.
These so-called chasers feel connected at a more consciously aware level to their twin. The prospect of an intense relationship with them comes as a relief they welcome into their lives.
They know they’re going to reunite when the time is right. It’s not the lack of mentality that drives them, but the abundance of unconditional love. The driving force behind them embracing the path comes from the point of balance and spiritual growth.
They’re entering the surrender stage and embracing the journey. This manifestation of a union is the one likelier to lead to the end of the separation phase, especially when the so-called chaser was the Divine Feminine energy. (https://puretwinflames.com/twin-flame-characteristics/. Emphasis in original.)
UPDATE, August 10, 2026...
I've been meditating and thinking about the above article concerning characteristics. The last paragraph linking an Embracer with the feminine pole was what caught my attention overnight.
When we talk about these twin flame characteristics, gender plays no role in the equation. Divine energies are not related to gender at all. Sure, it can happen that a female twin flame plays a Divine Feminine role in the connection at one point or overall. Or the male twin flame could play a Divine Masculine role. But it can also be the other way around.
And anyone, regardless of their gender or how they identify, has both Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine energies in their soul and energetic body.
The roles are not about gender, and they’re not fixed. Energy is the essence of life, and it’s always fluid. Twin flame energy always changes, adapts, and grows. The same twin can play alternating roles during the same human experience or as part of various lifetimes.
The roles influence how the two souls interact and harmonize in order to achieve divine union. It’s all about how they help each other to achieve the merging stage. (Emphasis added.)
First, some "housekeeping" discussion.
I am okay with the adjectives "feminine" and "masculine" because God created them male and female.
I am also okay with the adjective "divine" because we are God's creation and we are made in his image. When I say, "God," I am referring to the God of the Bible.
I remain skeptical about various lifetimes because I do not see that concept in the Bible. I believe we all get a single shot at this.2
One of the things that concerns me about Hinduism is the belief in multiple lifetimes and reincarnation.
- The practice of Sati encourages women to kill themselves.
- The thread in the Aaj Ki Raat (From "Don") music video where the man is poisoned and then drinks more poison to kill himself seems to stem from his presumed belief that he will reincarnate after he dies.
I believe that prevarication leads many people to tragically give up their own lives, which is just what the Darkness wants.
Now, the main reason I am making this update is, as of this morning, I believe I am currently the "feminine pole" of our dynamic and you are the "masculine pole." Reading through the characteristics of each and the characteristics of both the chaser and runner, I don't think our respective poles line up with our physical genders. And, according to the article, that's okay!
You came after me, and then you ran. I am older and have had more time and experiences to come to grips with spiritual matters. And the "Bike" story I wrote and have published on the private blog I made for you alone fits this polarity arrangement and continues to make me smile. (You'll really like it!)
This all lines up with my identification with the "Embracer" characteristics.
I hope you are transitioning into a "Postponer." Perhaps this is why you have been led to spend time in India with people who comprehend Hindu ideas, which are going to be more in line with Twin Flame phenomena than the ideas of people here in Central Michigan.
Yesterday, I was led to visit the church I left twenty years ago. Not much had changed. It was a big box containing people with ideas consistent with certain teachings, some of them true and some of them missing important components. I yearned for you the whole time I was there.
UPDATE, August 27, 2026...
If I am the feminine pole of the dynamic, then the following text applies to me.
From the second video of the original post, above...
15:40 How do you make this transition from pursuit to sovereignty? How do you stop chasing without becoming cold or indifferent? How do you choose yourself without closing your heart to the connection? These are practical questions that Jung addressed through specific inner work techniques.
The first step is developing what Jung called "the self-observation function," the ability to observe your own emotional and behavioral patterns without judgement. You need to start noticing when you're operating from lack versus when you're operating from abundance. Lack manifests as urgency, as need for immediate response, as tendency to interpret silence as rejection. Abundance manifests as natural patience, as ability to give space, as confidence that what's true always finds a way to manifest.
The second step is learning to distinguish between love and attachment. Love is an expansive force that wants the best for the other regardless of how it affects you. Attachment is a possessive force that wants the other in a specific way to satisfy your needs. When you truly love, you can desire for the person to be happy, even if it's not with you. When you're attached, you can only imagine their happiness if it includes you.
The third step is developing a consistent practice of internal fulfillment. This means creating sources of joy, fulfillment and love that don't depend on any specific person. It can be art, nature, spirituality, meaningful work, deep friendships, any activity that connects you with your own essence and makes you feel alive through yourself.
The fourth step is learning to establish healthy energetic boundaries. This means stopping molding yourself to please, stopping suppressing your truth to avoid conflicts, stopping making yourself emotionally available to those who don't demonstrate consistent reciprocity, not out of revenge or manipulation but from basic self-respect.
And the fifth step, perhaps most important, is cultivating an intimate and loving relationship with your own company, learning to enjoy yourself alone, comfort yourself in difficult moments, celebrate yourself in victories, forgive yourself in mistakes. When you become your own best friend and dearest company, you stop desperately seeking these functions in other people.
Jung understood this process doesn't happen overnight. It's a journey of months, or even years, depending on how deep the co-dependency patterns you've developed throughout life are. But each small step in this direction changes your energetic frequency perceptibly, not just for you but for all people around you. And here's where the real magic happens when you finally establish yourself in this inner sovereignty, when you stop chasing your Twin Flame and start living your own life fully, two things can happen.
The first is they may awaken to what they lost and start chasing you with the same intensity you used to chase them.
The second is you may discover you no longer need them to feel complete, and this discovery opens space for even more evolved and mature connections.
In both cases, you win. Either you reclaim your Twin Flame from a position of power and wholeness, creating solid foundation for truly conscious relationship, or you discover you're capable of attracting and sustaining connections even more aligned with who you've become through this growth process.
But regardless of external outcome, the real prize is always internal. You reclaim your own soul. You stop living on the periphery of another person's life and become protagonist of your own story again. You stop begging for "love crumbs" and become inexhaustible source of love for yourself and the world. Jung said that the final goal of human existence isn't finding our other half, but becoming whole through ourselves.
Twin Flames, according to this perspective, don't come to complete us, but to awaken us to our own wholeness. Mutual recognition serves as mirror where each soul can see itself reflected in its totality, but the work of becoming that totality is always individual and non-transferrable. When the divine feminine finally gets tired and decides to stop chasing, it's not giving up on love. It's finally choosing true love, starting with itself. It's deciding it deserves to be chosen by someone who recognizes it naturally, not by someone who needs to be convinced of its worth. It's opting to be magnetic through its own light, not needy through its own lack, and this choice, even when made in silence within one's own heart has power to transform not just your personal life, but the energetic dynamic of all people around you, because when a person truly establishes themselves in their inner sovereignty, they become living inspiration that it's possible to love without losing yourself, connect without abandoning yourself, desire without becoming desperate. [Emphasis added.]
I believe this has all been going on with me, especially the highlighted parts.
Yes, I am the feminine pole of the dynamic. What does that mean for our relationship and how do I adjust what I am doing?
I experience reality in layers. There is the layer of physical gender; the layer of biblical principles; the layer of energetic dynamics. It's all beginning to make some sense.
UPDATE, August 28, 2026...
2 Here is a specific biblical reference about this concept...
Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment, ... (Hebrews 9:27 NIV, emphasis added)
Back to the feminine energy discussion...
I was apparently the "magnetic attractor" because she was drawn to me.
I was the one who chose whether or not union would take place when we first met, and I will be the one to ultimately make that choice, although if our relationship develops further she will culturally be the one with the option to respond or not.
And I was the one who initially chased when I saw I was losing her, which sealed the fate of the relationship at that point.
Fascinating.
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