It's always the feminine that defines whether union will happen, or not.
The feminine creates the magnetic field of attraction, and the masculine aligns to that field.
The feminine principal is receptive but not passive; it's choosing but not pursuing; it's magnetic but not aggressive. It's like the earth that chooses which seeds it will allow to germinate in its soil. The earth doesn't chase after seeds begging to be fertilized. It simply offers or denies its conditions for life to sprout, and when it offers its ideal conditions the seeds naturally turn toward it, surrender to it, find in it the perfect home to flourish. The masculine principal on the other hand is directed, focused, penetrating. It's like the sun that offers its light constantly without pursuing; without begging to be accepted. It simply shines with its authentic truth and allows the earth to choose whether it wants to receive that light, or not. And when the earth opens to receive, when it offers fertile soil, the sun naturally pours over it with all its intensity.
When these principals operate in harmony, when each is in its natural energetic role, attraction happens organically, effortlessly, without resistance, but when roles are reversed, when the feminine tries to be the pursuing sun and the masculine tries to be the resisting earth, the dynamic becomes forced, unbalanced, usually doomed to failure or co-dependency.
...modern society ... has taught that women should chase men, that they should be active, aggressive, that they should conquer; and it taught men to be passive, more receptive, less directive. This polarity inversion has created entire generations of people who no longer know how to relate in an energetically-balanced way. And when it comes to twin flames, this polarity confusion becomes even more destructive because twin flames are connections that operate at much higher and more subtle frequencies than common relationships. Any energetic imbalance in this dynamic creates resistances that can last years, decades, sometimes entire lifetimes.
Jung observed in his therapy sessions that the soul that carries more feminine energy in the dynamic is always the one that defines whether union will happen, or not. (From the video, below.)
The feminine has to decide to change, but how does she do that?
UPDATE, October 17, 2025...
The church is feminine.
She must decide to change.
...to prepare for the wedding.
What is the work that God requires?